Expectations

Today I have been feeling low all day, I guess it was because of the early morning argument with my better half on a mundane issue, His refusal to act on the same left me soooooo disappointed and that was the end of my positive energy for the day. Well, I thought about it and thought about it ......(you know how we women are) and finally reached a conclusion after much debate with myself that the sole reason for the reaction was that I expected him to understand how I felt and react and act and he did not which left me wild with the disappointment.

And extending that to the many times that we have been unhappy, dejected and disappointed is the fact that we expected something out of a situation, person or proposal and when the expectation was not met, it plunges us into depression and disappointment. This is true of our interaction with fellow humans, results for our effort, kudos from the boss or compliments on the new wardrobe add in.

I think to not have an expectation is difficult and supremely godly to achieve, (if you do, good for you) but a start can be made by steeling ourselves to expect both an accept and a reject and be prepared for either. This is not to say that there will be no disappointment but that there will be lesser disappointment to an issue.

I am going to give it a try , let me know if it helps you too.

Till we meet again

Count your Blessings

"Dont' compare yourself with others, If you want to compare yourself, compare yourself to your true potential"



Well I am not trying to preach - This was the quote that my daughter had to learn for recitation in the assembly, When she went over it again and again I started to wonder if she undrestood the real meaning and its so beautiful and true......



Think of the unhappiness that the the comparison with others brings, Whether it is size comparison, wealth, health , job, anything.............But why do we want to believe that what we have is any lesser than what the others have? Do we even count our blessings? we are always looking for what we don't have and in the process don't enjoy what we have. I am fat, but that is relative.....I know of many people thinner than me who have problems. I am average looking, but I know many great looking people who are as comfortable with their persona that I am......They are trapped in the images they try to create for themselves and then can't break out of it. I am outspoken and honest, not necessarily brash, but I am not afraid to speak my mind, I know of many people who get stressed because they are not honest. Why compare. You are a wonderful person as you are and dont have to be the same as everyone else......We are not clones so why try to be in comparison..............

There are great benefits in comparing yourself with your true potential. You can better every mile stone you achieve as life then becomes a journey where you are constantly seeking to better what you did last.....Can you imagine how good you can be. And we can actually rid the world of the mediocrity that we see all around as everyone would strive to better what they achieve rather than compete with others. The happiness of being and improving on that will be immense and the unhappiness of the comparison fades away into oblivion.....

Lets make a start and make this world a happier place for all of us and however busy you may be always remember to count your blessings......

Hall of Fame

This is really interesting - yesterday I met some people and we got on to discuss the finals of the reality show - Indian Idol and how the chap from darjeeling made it big and how the country sent in smses in excess of seven crores. Man, I wish I was the owner of the cellphone service providers - if I could make such a killing in one day...........I am always bubbling with ideas you know..............

Well let me give you the twist in the tale, the other people were talking from their experience of the telecast of the concert on television and I was joining the conversation having read about it in the newspapers. And the chaps with me were astounded at the revelation and said that I ought to be put in the hall of fame for living without Television - Really? Is it so strange?

The reason wh I did not watch it - Simple the Tv connection at home is off as when we had the house painted we pulled it off and being the CAS affected viewers we have been at the mercy of the cable wallah who has no time to come and restart the connection despite persistent follow up.

And I could not be less thankful to him for the situation..............and let me elaborate how.....

Nowadays we have dinner for dinner, no compromises on the schedule as a show is to begin or it is ending, No rushed dinner either as we are all happy to be in each other's company and exchanging our experiences during the day or discussing what we want to do together next weekend - not what blockbuster movie we will watch next weekend on TV.....Talk about quality time or walk the talk......

We all sleep peacefully as there are no regrets of having left a show half unwatched or not slept as the climax was toooo great to miss, the result - we wake up happily with no unfinished TV business...........

The kids are forever happy to step out to the park or an outing whereas in the past it would be - not till this show is over................

We are all reading more - fiction, non fiction, School books, non school books and the kids are developing the habit and the the adults rediscovering or strengthening it.............and home work is also happily and neatly finished with no urgency to scribble and stratch as the show would start............

We are surfing more net and discovering something new everyday...................

And the funniest bit is all of us are not missing no TV at all but actually enjoying its absence...........

I think we need company in the Hall of Fame, Any takers?

Getting Inspired

Last evening, I was at the convocation of this mass comm institute and I had the pleasure of being in the same room with Kiran Bedi who was the chief guest for the ocassion. She is so inspiring to see and hear and I wish we had more people like her around. She has the courage - to fight wrong and the courage of her conviction and an extremely pure conciensce....if we could be all like her the world would be a different place. She had a very valid message for the journalists and urged them to use media to bring about the reform that the country needs right now.

I think I was truly carried away at the ocassion and when invited to address the students, i actually broke into a song that makes me go whatever the situation in life - I don't know how many of you have heard this one by ABBA - 'i have a dream....' And when I look back today, me singing in front of these 100 people seems untrue!!

Such is life, It makes you do the most unexpected things at the most unexpected times...........My heartfelt thanks to the 100 souls who heard me without complaining and some even kind enough to congratulate me on being different..........

Thank you..............

Kal Ho Na Ho

A beautiful thought e - mailed by a friend, worth a dekko and follow otherwise life passes you by........Kal Ho Na ho


Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand - strawberries in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming WOO HOO - What a Ride Absolutely .

This is so true of what i keep saying - You have only one life , do what you want, Have a dream in our heart, a song on your lips , a focus on your destination, and all else will follow. As some famous person said - live like there is no tomorrow, so before today passes you by follow your dreams...............

GirlFriends

Last night I got a lovely SMS from a dear friend or should I say, Lost and found sister from the Kumbh ka mela -Kanta ,and I promised her that I would put it in my blog- here goes -

'Here's one for us girls -

" I look at my friends , then I look at me

Without my friends where would i be?

My friends

My sisters

My shadows

My world

Where would I be without the girls

Giggles and tears,

Smiles and Laughs

Late nite text and photographs

We'll be there together until our last day,

Best girlies for ever just wont fade away"

I felt so nostalgic when i read this....It is so true of me and the girlfriends i have acquired over the years. We are all unique, in all shapes and sizes, spread across the world.........but bonded by a common love - the love of life, our sense of values, passion for what we do, our dislike of mediocrity and wanting to make a difference to things that we touch at home and outside................

So here is praying to God that we are always there for each other and together in the celebration of life.

Being a Mother

Being a Mother This is a truth in my life that is larger than life itself..........you see, I am Mama not only for my two children but I have an extended family of bacchas where I teach and where I work and where I worked and bacchas who have worked with me. Amazing na, but I cannot put a number to it. but one thing is sure, i have learnt so much and am an absolute believer in past life and Karma more so than before.Let me explain - It is often said that what you do in this birth shall be returned to you in this birth itself, Do good and you are bound to find that coming back to you in this life many times over and vice versa. I was a half believer and behaved as I wanted with my mother, poor thing she was always at the recieving end of my tantrums and ways. My answer to her simple and well meaning questions would be vague answers that left her exasperated...If she asked What time I would be back from wherever I was going, i would always answer well I will be back home only mama and where else would i go? I now know what she felt as my son is a natural at this...I hate it when my kids fuss over food, not listen to me and take me for granted. Didn't I do that to Mum when I was younger?What got me thinking about this was the phone call from mamaji when my son was born - 'Now you know what pains your mum took to get you into the world'? Well even though that was 16 years ago, I think about it a lot. I also love my mother more now as I undrestand her better and why she was as she was.....well she hasn't changed ( I still get scolded for coming late or not keeping in touch, or not being organised) but i do not react as i would have many years ago. I understand completely where she is coming from. I often see her smile when I am trying to conclude an argument with the children on some issue and I feel that she knows exactly how i am feeling...................It is really a wonderful feeling being a mother end of the day, I have also learnt that there is no perfect solution and no set way when dealing with children and the only thing that helps is patience.........(I keep praying for it and god is generous) though sometimes I don't seem to find where it is.God must have given me the extended family to spread this message of love and adopt and be adopted by the many souls. My extended family too leans on my broad shoulders and expects the ocassional hugs and awaits some whipping too......but what keeps me going is the love that is showered on me by one and all. Here's wishing a god bless to all of us and may we be together for many years to come.
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by Supermom
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Whatever

I have been thinking of doing this for very long but like many things that take priority in the day to day rush, this is no exception......Well got started now and hope to keep at it.

What I wish to post here is my experiences and what I have learnt and ask whoever visits to post what they feel about the same - I am sure there will be many perspectives to everything and we can all benefit from those. I know a group at a Nehru Place office who are only too eagerly awaiting what I will post. So dears, I will expect your reactions and frank views on the same..........nothing more nothing less.

Well one thing that is top of mind with me with my current life is "Working Moms, Always Working" Really life is a never ending journey from one task to another -(I am not complaining but all working moms will surely identify with the feeling), so much so that when I sit doing nothing ( after reading a sinfully inspiring spiritual column) as it is very important sopmetimes to spend time with yourself, I almost start to feel guilty... Right or Wrong I dont know but I do.but only god knows that i rather be occupied than not as i wouldn't know what to do with the hormonal cycles in my body, better work than kill some one............

All the people close to me often think i do more than what a normal person would and end up driving my self to exhaustion- I have been awarded the title of Supermom by my sisters and neighbours who see me go up and down the stairs all day long from task to task...........One of my dear neighbours always complains that I am forever vertical and she needs to see me sit. One day, Ekdin, she will realise her dream..........Till then she better bear with me.

So I hope to keep this going as my link to sanity ( I think you can be anything you want in your virtual avatar) and hope to hear from you chaps