Sayings of Jewish Buddha........from e mail

Sayings of the Jewish Buddha
Be here now.
Be someplace else later.
Is that so complicated?

Drink tea and nourish life;
with the first sip, joy;
with the second sip, peace;
with the third, a Danish.
Wherever you go, there you are.
Your luggage is another story.

Accept misfortune as a blessing.
Do not wish for perfect health,
or a life without problems.
What would you talk about?
The journey of a thousand miles
begins with a single Oy.

There is no escaping karma.
In a previous life,
you never called,
you never wrote,
you never visited.
And whose fault was that?

Zen is not easy.
It takes effort to attain nothingness.
And then what do you have?
Bupkis.

The Tao does not speak.
The Tao does not blame.
The Tao does not take sides.
The Tao has no expectations.
The Tao demands nothing of others.
The Tao is not Jewish.

Breathe in.
Breathe out.
Breathe in.
Breathe out.

Forget this
and attaining Enlightenment
will be the least of your problems.

Let your mind be as a floating cloud.
Let your stillness be as a wooded glen.
And sit up straight.
You'll never meet the Buddha with such rounded shoulders.

Deep inside you are ten thousand flowers.
Each flower blossoms ten thousand times.
Each blossom has ten thousand petals.
You might want to see a specialist.

Be aware of your body.
Be aware of your perceptions.
Keep in mind that not every physical sensation is a symptom of a terminal illness

The Torah says,
Love your neighbor as yourself.

The Buddha says,
There is no self.
So, maybe we are off the hook.

The Lowly Elite of Delhi

Every time I have an encounter with the richie rich class of Delhi, I am appalled...........No no I am not jealous of their money or designer clothes and jewellery and the luxury cars but at their obvious lack of decorum and etiquette. Recently I had the pleasure of attending a special screening show of a movie with a friend, the show was especially for the elite of Delhi( read millionaires) and the first thought that came to my mind was that the regular shows I attend for the movies with the junta crowd had more decorum than this one...I guess because everyone here was rich in their own right, had come wearing the designer labels, the lobby at the theatre could masquerade for a perfume gallery ( the kind where the various fragrances could get you so lost that you just might faint if you didn’t watch it). There were accented English sounds around us that made me wonder if I was in a dream and in America.

Well, so far so good and it was amusing to look and experience. But the antics at the snack counter were disgusting. A family was fighting with the fellow behind the counter as they wanted the snack to be something other than the voucher that the sponsor had provided. When the poor fellow at the counter apologised that this could not be, they were ready to take his life as he was so stuck on the rules.............Well, standing behind them ( with my patience wearing thin), it struck me that the other snack was so affordable and if they did not want this one which was free, why won’t they just open their wallet and buy it? Strange but true, they did not want to pay and called up the people at the sponsor’s end to protest and earn their alternate snack..............to top the situation was the fact that they gave two hoots to the fact that there was a queue of people right behind them waiting their turn to get the snack.......
Now if you thought that was it, no, there was a whole pack of popcorns that had spilled on to the floor and the people just walked over the popcorn as if nothing mattered. Weren’t we all taught to respect food when we were young and especially that it was not meant to be trodden upon? Seems like these elite came from another planet. I got dirty looks when I brought this to the notice of the man behind the counter, the looks seem to suggest that I was trying to be miss goody two shoes in the elite environment and that too in my non designer clothes and the muted look. Well, I am grateful to god for my bread and have enough respect not to tread upon it atleast knowingly............
Then came the time to watch the movie and the entry door opened, and lol the sembelance of the queue suddenly broke down and there was much jostling and pushing to get it. Hello, the seats were already allotted on the tickets buddy so what’s the rush? Chalo, you were excited about the movie and wanted to get in and not miss a single bit, accepted, but trying to get in that way...phew! they would even beat the front row benchers hollow.
Then, the show begins and there are these busy people who won’t get off their mobile phones, arre bhai, itne busy ho to aaye kyon? I did manage to make some noises to shut them up ( atleast the ones around me) but the rings kept the disturbance on through out the show. There was a repeat of the jostle at the exit after the movie and I was so happy to leave the company of these so called elite of Delhi.............
I often wonder why people think that they should earn your respect because they have pots of money and fat bank accounts. To my mind respect is earned by your conduct and etiquette when dealing with others. The money ceases to matter beyond a point, I really wish that the future generation of these elite improve or else, we are all in trouble.

The Dark Side of Festivals

I know its the eve of Diwali and the Festival of Lights and everything should be sparkling and nice, but there is a darkness in my heart that I must admit is nagging my festive spirit and drive.

Do you know that our country has many who live with an income of below, one dollar a day.....that is less than what you might spend on cigarettes, treats, mints, parking and tips etc in a day and these people have to survive and provide for themselves with this in a day. It makes me shudder to think of how tough life must be for them, so while the haves are splurging these millions are looking for a means to survive. I wish that we think of them when in a festive mood ( read ready to spend on festivities) and try and adpt some souls.Charity begins at home, maybe we can adopt the children of the people who work in our houses and enlighten them through education so that they come out of the dollar a day existence.

The crass commercialisation of the festivals also upsets me no end. Remember the time we weighed the love of aunts in the family basis the goodies they made for us and not by the size and value of the gift pack they brought for us? Today, I see all around ( mostly) people wanting to woo the 'useful lot 'of relatives and friends through expensive gifts while the not so useful are given the hand me downs no one wants. Is that whta expressing your love is reduced to during festivals? Think about it

The other aspect of Diwali is the crackers - they are no good from the start. They employ poor minors who get to live a short life thanks to the affect the masala has on their lungs and the crammed working conditions. Would you want to revel with such crackers and participate in the dance of death? Crackers cause air pollutions that affect all of us in some way, and god help the asthamatics who feel it is better to die than live through another smoke filled diwali, but people just seem to ignore it. Anyone who has an asthamatic family memeber will or neighbour undrestand what one can go through. Then ofcourse the noise pollution and the penchant for being the last one to finish the bang......I have seen, sorry heard, the crackers bang till 3:30 am - with no regard to the people's sleep and comfort.

So please please do something about it, change the way you celebrate your festivals and think of the poor, the children and the environment for a happier tomorrow.

Tell your children the story of Dhanteras

Tomorrow is the festival of Dhanteras.....my daugther was very keen to know the story why Dhanteras is celebrated, I thought we should all know so have downloaded it here.....Wishing the festival of light has lots of happiness and prosperity in store for you all...Shubh Labh and Happy Diwali.

Dhanteras marks the first day of five-days-long Diwali Festival. Dhanteras falls on the auspicious thirteenth lunar day of Krishna Paksha in the Hindu month of Kartik (October/November). In the word Dhanteras, "Dhan" stands for wealth. On Dhanteras Goddess Laxmi is worshiped to provide prosperity and well being. Hence Dhan Teras holds a lot more significance for the business community.

A very interesting story about Dhanteras Festival says that once the sixteen year old son of King Hima was doomed to die by a snake-bite on the fourth day of his marriage as per his horoscope. On that particular fourth day of his marriage his young wife did not allow him to sleep. She laid all the ornaments and lots of gold and silver coins in a big heap at the entrance of her husband's boudoir and lighted innumerable lamps all over the place. And she went on telling stories and singing songs.

When Yama, the god of Death arrived there in the guise of a Serpent his eyes got blinded by that dazzle of those brilliant lights and he could not enter the Prince's chamber. So he climbed on top of the heap of the ornaments and coins and sat there whole night listening to the melodious songs. In the morning he quietly went away. Thus the young wife saved her husband from the clutches of death. Since then this day of Dhanteras came to be known as the day of "Yamadeepdaan" and lamps are kept burning throughout the night in reverential adoration to Yam, the god of Death. .......Make sure you have the Diyas ready......

According to another popular legend, when the gods and demons churned the ocean for Amrit or nectar, Dhanavantri (the physician of the gods and an incarnation of Vishnu) emerged carrying a jar of the elixir on the day of Dhanteras. Dhanteras PreparationsTo mark the auspicious day, houses and business premises are renovated and decorated. Entrances are made colorful with lovely traditional motifs of Rangoli designs to welcome the Goddess of Wealth and Prosperity. To indicate her long-awaited arrival, small footprints are drawn with rice flour and vermilion powder all over the houses. Lamps are kept burning all through the nights.

How much is enough?

This has been on my mind for many days now.....and no I am not talking about money but about pushing the children to realise our dreams and live up to our expectations. How much should we push our children to come first and be tops in everything that they do.

The thought comes in my head specially when I see moms and kids together at a place where there are many other children, like at the hobby classes, parks, the lavish birthday parties that have become the norm for all kids to have. I see the moms more upset than the children if the child does not win, the child may still be laughing and enjoying the fact that atleast he had a good time and participated in the event whether at school, hobby competition or at birthday party games. Isn't that the spirit of sportsmanship and why can't we teach them that? And the childhood days and the fun, what about that? do we have a right as parents to deny them the innocent years with the stress of competing for 'more'?

I think about it so much as I am not one of those pushy moms.......I am a happy go lucky working moms, where a discipline for attending the hobby class is important but not a matter of life and death if missed. I am not the kind who sweeps through the children's notebooks to ask the teacher why the child got half a mark less or why were marks deducted ( sometimes I am pleasantly surprised at what my children have achieved when I see their work at PTMs...Ouch) - I do not network with the hobby teacher to push my child in the competitions coming up. I do network to wish them on festivals and teacher's day as i feel it is my duty, given that they give so much joy to my kids.


So why am I thinking so much about it? Let me give you a few examples.......

I know of a mother who was very keen that her daughter participate in sports events and has finally achieved that with pushing her for two whole years of this and that. recently, my daughter said that the girl was very upset that her mom was upsetthat she wasn't chosen to participate in a competition as hr coach felt her performance was not good enough...and lol three days later the mom had managed that as well. How? search me.....Would it really have been such a disaster if her daughter did not go? Couldn't she have gone when she was ready and qualified on her own?

Another mother I know pushes her child socially...." go play football now and why don't you do so with so and so ( the reason being that the people she is pushing the child to are richie rich with the state of the art latest gizmos that money can buy and the children are swankily dressed..) So what are we teaching the child that anyone who has no money or is not flashy is not worth it? I had the same mother look me up and down with astonishment when I described some London streets and places to, when she was off on her first London trip. Well, the reason for her astonishment was simple......"I amjust a old fashioned girl, with a old fashioned wardrobe( yes my power dressing is still Indian clothes) and my car is a small one, while the mother in question is ready to outgrow her Esteem ( the car that is ...ha ha) . And I had been to London many times so as to describe the sights and roads...........

Another mother.......her son had to race against other students at the Taekwondo class ( races are a part of warm ups before the sparring) and he could not come second..so while most of us were happily sitting and destressing or walking she would sit watching the class and egging her son on...and lord help the son if he came second.

Another one thought that the child had to participate in ALL competitions happening at school as it builds the competitive spirit in them, Good, I said must encourage my daughter to do the same. The funny thing was that to build the spirit of competition in the children for this mother meant that the children had to be in the top three selections.......Oh , and here I always counsel my children to study hard, gain knowledge and not worry about marks or coming first in class.

So I wonder - are my children loosing out as I am not pushing them, could they have gone places with their talent and work if I had thought about all that. Am I the odd one out who is not doing so and disadvantaging my children in getting the most out of life? Are my children not going to find their 30 seconds of fame in talent shows and competitions. Will they have to wait for their glory when they fly on their own? What should I do? Push them? But comes back to my question at the beginning - how much is enough? Does any one have an answer? Do tell me.........

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Are we heading for a Mahabharat?

Well, first the season's very best to all.The festive season has begun in earnest and is flying by really fast, It seems that just yesterday was rakhi and what even Durga Puja are now over...Diwali will pass by in no time and the year will be over. So lets look forward to a better year and a better world and ensure that we are the instruments of change for the better.......

Coming back to why I think we are headed for a Mahabharat - I have been looking around me and realise this increasing culture of - 'me, myself and I' without a consideration or thought for the others- Please don't misunderstand this with individualism, i am actually talking about selfishness. Each one of is unique like everyone else :-)) but do so many of us have to be sooooo selfish.

Just as Duryodhana was spoilt by his parents ( being their first born) and given to understand that he could fight the Pandavas and get what he wants - it ultimately led to the Mahabharat. I feel the children today are being brought up with the same attitude - they know they can get what they want and when they want it and they have to get it if they want it...I see the mothers urging their children to get ahead and think only of themselves when doing so. It makes me sad to see the children being chided by moms for not coming first in the race ( in a hobby class as well), of seeing them indulged and not taught any respect for food or money( check out the behaviour of a lot of young parents and kids at a resturant), of seeing them being insensitive to another's need or problem ( as long as i am happy, mujhe kya?), no respect for elders or no respect to the fact that the aged have their set of issues when moving around( Have you ever observed a youngster's impatience with an old person in a market place?)

As time passes there will be more and more of these Duryodhanas who will be quite happy with life as long as they can live as they want. And the moment their wishes are not met there will be mayhem. And already the media is full of many cases and i shudder to think what will happen as time passes by........We have seen enough cases of road rage around in delhi - sometime murders or brutal bashings just because the person in front didnt let you jump a red light or give you way to pass, Arguments with friend leading to fatal fights, pub and party brawls, the other day out at a movie , there was a group of 4 ,(2 couples actually) where one couple got into an argument and the guy physically slapped the girl who went away crying...that leads me to domestic violence as well, the frustrated spouse decided to give it hard to the other one and vent his or her feelings.

We need to stop this and change our attitude with children....We need to deny them sometimes what they want or hold carrots to achieve what we want - otherwise we will all be a generation of Duryohanas and can you imagine, we will meet a fate worse than Mahabharat perhaps with no Krisna coming to our rescue...................

Burdens of Childhood

Hi again, It's nice to be back albeit after a long time, and what kept me away was not entirely my busy schedule but also the after effects of a workshop that I helped conduct........the workshop was meant for PG students and teaching them the basics of theatre and the how and why of drama and get them to 'let go'...of many biases and thoughts and the shackles of upbringing and learn to live the character you are representing on stage......you have to forget who you are and who all are watching you and if your action is seemingly strange but required to be part of the character. You also had to learn to trust your fellow team members and a pretty interesting exercise was carried out. We all stood in a circle in teams of 8-9 people and one of the persons had to stand in the centre and fall trusting his/ her teammates completely to save him/her. It was really interesting to see how hard most of us find to completely trust a fellow human....

All good fun so far....and took the better part of the morning, then the workshop took an unexpected serious turn, the instructor embarked on an exercise to rid the attendees of the burdens of childhood. The kids were asked to lie down an close their eyes and relax. They had to then imagine that they were walking into a paradise and there in in a room they meet all the people who have hurt them in life and forgive them of the actions they might have performed resulting into the unpleasantness that you faced. It was here that one started seeing some kids break down and how....and even after the whole worshop ready to break down into tears......The hurt ranged from unfulfilled dreams to discrmination of a girl child to angst at the grandparents for their behaviour with their parents, of a restricted childhood, It went on and on, It amazed me to see, how much unhappiness can accrue with in us if we hold on to this memories and prejudices. the mother in me reacted instantly and I wanted to hug and console each child, did for some and calmed them down................but the emotions just got to me and how...

But one big lesson that I learnt is that it is better to forgive and forget and move on with life, not easy but definitely cleansing your heart and head of a lot of emotional angst that may ultimately stand in the way of your material and spiritual progress.

So, do forgive and enjoy the peace you will when you do.............

Fear

Fear - The word evokes different feelings in all of us and we all fear different things. We fear the physical injuries as well as emotional ones all the time. I started to think about this when out on a very mundane visit to the bank ...........I was walking down and suddenly the sight of a lone man in the sidelane that I was passing through made me clutch my bag a little more tightly. I was surprised at the reaction as many countless times I had passed through the sidelanes for the bank. You see, the evening previous to that one aunty whose sister lives near the bylane told me that the RWA had put up a notice for the residents to be careful of the snatchers in the lane, and there I was imagining perhaps what might not be.....the man passed me by and I breathed a sigh of relief and went on to finish business at the bank.


Well, one small thing that set me thinking and I realised that I feel really vulnerable when i am walking on road sides with heavy traffics, or in an auto going off to a far off place,I love cooking but am really scared of pressure cookers and gas cylinders...I am scared for the safety of my children and get really hyper when I cant see them at an appointed time or play in the park...I am also scared of dark places, perhaps not so much of the lonely ones............



I wondered why this is happening...........and realised that the media is a lot to blame for this and the change that one percieves in the society। The media is forever creating panic and making moutains out of molehills to grab eyeballs from the audiences and we respond . We should believe that our children are not safe in school as there are many sex starved teachers there and lord forbid that they zero in on our daughters...There are drug addicts wanting to add on to their lot and will be soon targetting our sons...There are chain snatchers and thieves who want your money or your life...and if you live in Delhi then there is road rage that you have to fear when out on the streets... And wait while you are at home, your servant and cook is about to get you for a few thousands that you have, if you read newspapers or watch TV channels then you will discover many new ways in which someone is out to get you....

I think I have passed on some of the panic to my children - good or bad I don't know, but am sure they are careful when out there.........And confident that they are as God is walking with them

Expectations

Today I have been feeling low all day, I guess it was because of the early morning argument with my better half on a mundane issue, His refusal to act on the same left me soooooo disappointed and that was the end of my positive energy for the day. Well, I thought about it and thought about it ......(you know how we women are) and finally reached a conclusion after much debate with myself that the sole reason for the reaction was that I expected him to understand how I felt and react and act and he did not which left me wild with the disappointment.

And extending that to the many times that we have been unhappy, dejected and disappointed is the fact that we expected something out of a situation, person or proposal and when the expectation was not met, it plunges us into depression and disappointment. This is true of our interaction with fellow humans, results for our effort, kudos from the boss or compliments on the new wardrobe add in.

I think to not have an expectation is difficult and supremely godly to achieve, (if you do, good for you) but a start can be made by steeling ourselves to expect both an accept and a reject and be prepared for either. This is not to say that there will be no disappointment but that there will be lesser disappointment to an issue.

I am going to give it a try , let me know if it helps you too.

Till we meet again

Count your Blessings

"Dont' compare yourself with others, If you want to compare yourself, compare yourself to your true potential"



Well I am not trying to preach - This was the quote that my daughter had to learn for recitation in the assembly, When she went over it again and again I started to wonder if she undrestood the real meaning and its so beautiful and true......



Think of the unhappiness that the the comparison with others brings, Whether it is size comparison, wealth, health , job, anything.............But why do we want to believe that what we have is any lesser than what the others have? Do we even count our blessings? we are always looking for what we don't have and in the process don't enjoy what we have. I am fat, but that is relative.....I know of many people thinner than me who have problems. I am average looking, but I know many great looking people who are as comfortable with their persona that I am......They are trapped in the images they try to create for themselves and then can't break out of it. I am outspoken and honest, not necessarily brash, but I am not afraid to speak my mind, I know of many people who get stressed because they are not honest. Why compare. You are a wonderful person as you are and dont have to be the same as everyone else......We are not clones so why try to be in comparison..............

There are great benefits in comparing yourself with your true potential. You can better every mile stone you achieve as life then becomes a journey where you are constantly seeking to better what you did last.....Can you imagine how good you can be. And we can actually rid the world of the mediocrity that we see all around as everyone would strive to better what they achieve rather than compete with others. The happiness of being and improving on that will be immense and the unhappiness of the comparison fades away into oblivion.....

Lets make a start and make this world a happier place for all of us and however busy you may be always remember to count your blessings......

Hall of Fame

This is really interesting - yesterday I met some people and we got on to discuss the finals of the reality show - Indian Idol and how the chap from darjeeling made it big and how the country sent in smses in excess of seven crores. Man, I wish I was the owner of the cellphone service providers - if I could make such a killing in one day...........I am always bubbling with ideas you know..............

Well let me give you the twist in the tale, the other people were talking from their experience of the telecast of the concert on television and I was joining the conversation having read about it in the newspapers. And the chaps with me were astounded at the revelation and said that I ought to be put in the hall of fame for living without Television - Really? Is it so strange?

The reason wh I did not watch it - Simple the Tv connection at home is off as when we had the house painted we pulled it off and being the CAS affected viewers we have been at the mercy of the cable wallah who has no time to come and restart the connection despite persistent follow up.

And I could not be less thankful to him for the situation..............and let me elaborate how.....

Nowadays we have dinner for dinner, no compromises on the schedule as a show is to begin or it is ending, No rushed dinner either as we are all happy to be in each other's company and exchanging our experiences during the day or discussing what we want to do together next weekend - not what blockbuster movie we will watch next weekend on TV.....Talk about quality time or walk the talk......

We all sleep peacefully as there are no regrets of having left a show half unwatched or not slept as the climax was toooo great to miss, the result - we wake up happily with no unfinished TV business...........

The kids are forever happy to step out to the park or an outing whereas in the past it would be - not till this show is over................

We are all reading more - fiction, non fiction, School books, non school books and the kids are developing the habit and the the adults rediscovering or strengthening it.............and home work is also happily and neatly finished with no urgency to scribble and stratch as the show would start............

We are surfing more net and discovering something new everyday...................

And the funniest bit is all of us are not missing no TV at all but actually enjoying its absence...........

I think we need company in the Hall of Fame, Any takers?

Getting Inspired

Last evening, I was at the convocation of this mass comm institute and I had the pleasure of being in the same room with Kiran Bedi who was the chief guest for the ocassion. She is so inspiring to see and hear and I wish we had more people like her around. She has the courage - to fight wrong and the courage of her conviction and an extremely pure conciensce....if we could be all like her the world would be a different place. She had a very valid message for the journalists and urged them to use media to bring about the reform that the country needs right now.

I think I was truly carried away at the ocassion and when invited to address the students, i actually broke into a song that makes me go whatever the situation in life - I don't know how many of you have heard this one by ABBA - 'i have a dream....' And when I look back today, me singing in front of these 100 people seems untrue!!

Such is life, It makes you do the most unexpected things at the most unexpected times...........My heartfelt thanks to the 100 souls who heard me without complaining and some even kind enough to congratulate me on being different..........

Thank you..............

Kal Ho Na Ho

A beautiful thought e - mailed by a friend, worth a dekko and follow otherwise life passes you by........Kal Ho Na ho


Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand - strawberries in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming WOO HOO - What a Ride Absolutely .

This is so true of what i keep saying - You have only one life , do what you want, Have a dream in our heart, a song on your lips , a focus on your destination, and all else will follow. As some famous person said - live like there is no tomorrow, so before today passes you by follow your dreams...............

GirlFriends

Last night I got a lovely SMS from a dear friend or should I say, Lost and found sister from the Kumbh ka mela -Kanta ,and I promised her that I would put it in my blog- here goes -

'Here's one for us girls -

" I look at my friends , then I look at me

Without my friends where would i be?

My friends

My sisters

My shadows

My world

Where would I be without the girls

Giggles and tears,

Smiles and Laughs

Late nite text and photographs

We'll be there together until our last day,

Best girlies for ever just wont fade away"

I felt so nostalgic when i read this....It is so true of me and the girlfriends i have acquired over the years. We are all unique, in all shapes and sizes, spread across the world.........but bonded by a common love - the love of life, our sense of values, passion for what we do, our dislike of mediocrity and wanting to make a difference to things that we touch at home and outside................

So here is praying to God that we are always there for each other and together in the celebration of life.

Being a Mother

Being a Mother This is a truth in my life that is larger than life itself..........you see, I am Mama not only for my two children but I have an extended family of bacchas where I teach and where I work and where I worked and bacchas who have worked with me. Amazing na, but I cannot put a number to it. but one thing is sure, i have learnt so much and am an absolute believer in past life and Karma more so than before.Let me explain - It is often said that what you do in this birth shall be returned to you in this birth itself, Do good and you are bound to find that coming back to you in this life many times over and vice versa. I was a half believer and behaved as I wanted with my mother, poor thing she was always at the recieving end of my tantrums and ways. My answer to her simple and well meaning questions would be vague answers that left her exasperated...If she asked What time I would be back from wherever I was going, i would always answer well I will be back home only mama and where else would i go? I now know what she felt as my son is a natural at this...I hate it when my kids fuss over food, not listen to me and take me for granted. Didn't I do that to Mum when I was younger?What got me thinking about this was the phone call from mamaji when my son was born - 'Now you know what pains your mum took to get you into the world'? Well even though that was 16 years ago, I think about it a lot. I also love my mother more now as I undrestand her better and why she was as she was.....well she hasn't changed ( I still get scolded for coming late or not keeping in touch, or not being organised) but i do not react as i would have many years ago. I understand completely where she is coming from. I often see her smile when I am trying to conclude an argument with the children on some issue and I feel that she knows exactly how i am feeling...................It is really a wonderful feeling being a mother end of the day, I have also learnt that there is no perfect solution and no set way when dealing with children and the only thing that helps is patience.........(I keep praying for it and god is generous) though sometimes I don't seem to find where it is.God must have given me the extended family to spread this message of love and adopt and be adopted by the many souls. My extended family too leans on my broad shoulders and expects the ocassional hugs and awaits some whipping too......but what keeps me going is the love that is showered on me by one and all. Here's wishing a god bless to all of us and may we be together for many years to come.
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Whatever

I have been thinking of doing this for very long but like many things that take priority in the day to day rush, this is no exception......Well got started now and hope to keep at it.

What I wish to post here is my experiences and what I have learnt and ask whoever visits to post what they feel about the same - I am sure there will be many perspectives to everything and we can all benefit from those. I know a group at a Nehru Place office who are only too eagerly awaiting what I will post. So dears, I will expect your reactions and frank views on the same..........nothing more nothing less.

Well one thing that is top of mind with me with my current life is "Working Moms, Always Working" Really life is a never ending journey from one task to another -(I am not complaining but all working moms will surely identify with the feeling), so much so that when I sit doing nothing ( after reading a sinfully inspiring spiritual column) as it is very important sopmetimes to spend time with yourself, I almost start to feel guilty... Right or Wrong I dont know but I do.but only god knows that i rather be occupied than not as i wouldn't know what to do with the hormonal cycles in my body, better work than kill some one............

All the people close to me often think i do more than what a normal person would and end up driving my self to exhaustion- I have been awarded the title of Supermom by my sisters and neighbours who see me go up and down the stairs all day long from task to task...........One of my dear neighbours always complains that I am forever vertical and she needs to see me sit. One day, Ekdin, she will realise her dream..........Till then she better bear with me.

So I hope to keep this going as my link to sanity ( I think you can be anything you want in your virtual avatar) and hope to hear from you chaps